Have you ever said to yourself when you got back from a vacation that you need another one to relax from the one you just took?   I have, especially with a youngster in tow.    While our daughter is young enough to enjoy dressing up and the Princess experience at Disney World, we once again made the pilgrimage after school was out.  This also meant going non-stop from sun up to sun down while we were there to make sure that we hit every attraction…three times!  I wish I had the energy of a seven year-old again!

     Vacations play a role is maintaining our sanity and health.  They take us away from the stress of work and home life to a place where we can recharge, rejuvenate, and return refreshed.  But, how many times does this actually happen?  How many times do we come home as stressed out as when we left, open up an inbox full of unanswered e-mail, our house is a mess, and a pile of dirty laundry needs to be done?  Do feel as bad as you did before you left?

     In case you have felt like you have needed a vacation from your vacation, here are four tips to make your next one a little easier on you:

• Plan to return from your trip a day early to catch up on laundry, e-mail, bills, and anything else which may put you in a better frame of mind.
• If you can, Jeff Davidson, author of “Simpler Living: A Back to Basics Guide: to Cleaning, Furnishing, Storing, Decluttering, Streamlining, Organizing,” suggests schedule a pleasurable task for that extra day when you get back.  It could be watching your favorite show or sipping a cup of tea.
• Shortly before you go, clean your house and desk.  Returning to a house or office that is orderly can give you a feeling of control.
• If you do decide to check e-mail while on vacation, decide when and how often you are going to do it.

I wish that when we got back from Disney World that I had one more day off before I got back in my routine.  But, now I’m equipped to tackle our next family vacation with less stress when we get home.  I hope you can, too!

Many of us go through life, doing things we shouldn’t do and not thinking of the consequences until something goes wrong.  Do we think that we aren’t going to get caught along the way or in the end?  Are we rebels that we don’t want someone telling us what to do, that we do just the opposite?  Why is obedience so hard?

If we know the consequences of we don’t obey the law, for example, then why do we break it?  If we know that drinking in excess and getting behind the wheel of a vehicle is dangerous and can kill, then why do some folks choose to do it?  Isn’t following or obeying the rules and staying out of trouble easier? 

My seven year-old daughter is at the age where she is testing boundaries.  She is deciding when she wants to obey.  She learns the consequences when she doesn’t.  She is finding it is much easier to do what she is told, not lie, and have to worry about getting in trouble.  She is learning to make good choices when faced with the consequences of both decisions.   I hope that she is not thinking of how she can get away with something, but how easy life is when she is obedient to her father and me.

I find life is like that.  If we obey traffic laws, we get from one place to another without major delays or getting in crashes in the process.  If we obey rules in the workplace, we may avoid conflicting situations.  If we obey our marriage vows, we grow in our relationship and preserve our family unit.  If we obey the tax laws, we avoid being audited by the IRS.

I must admit, though, that I have a hard time being obedient to what food I put into my mouth.  I try really hard to eat healthy, but there are times where I’m a glutton for junk food and chocolate.  I know that all of that refined sugar isn’t good for me and only turns to fat.  And, if you opened me up when I die, you might find a big chocolate brownie stuck in my heart.  But, in the end, does food satisfy?  Does the sugar that I eat take care of immediate needs or is the satisfaction long-lasting?  As the motto goes, “A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips”.  No, the sweet chocolate taste doesn’t last, but the after effects do.

This is much like when we aren’t obedient.  We may get immediate gratification from not obeying, but the consequences or pitfalls of disobedience can be devastating.  As much as it seems against what we may want to do or be told, following the rules seems to be the easiest way to living like we want.  Then, we don't have to worry about getting caught.

Until next time, be your best always,
Darcy

Mother’s Day is a recent memory.  Like most moms, I was treated to a day where I could do whatever I want.  I was Queen of the remote control.  The lunch menu detailed food that I wanted, and I didn’t have to cook it.  My daughter, young as she is, made several Mother’s Day cards at school, church, and home with various scrapbooking adornments, which she proudly presented to me and begged that I select my favorite one.  The sun was shining, and the day was happy.

There are times in our lives where things may not seem happy or joyous at all.  Events happen and steal our joy.  How do you recover from this?  Where are you getting your joy? 

I must confess, life is not all roses.  One of my six year-old daughter’s favorite sayings is, “It’s not fair”.  She is learning that life isn’t fair at times.  What would life be like if we had everything we wanted?  King Solomon in the Bible had it all: power, fame, fortune, and wisdom.  Yet, he put his happiness in temporal things and became very unhappy.  Have you ever said to yourself, I will be really happy when I get that new car?  How long does this happiness last?  Or what about an accomplishment you have achieved.  The next one must be bigger and better.  It’s never enough and the cycle continues, searching for the happiness “high” that you experienced before.

What makes you happy?  I’m not just talking about for a few hours or days.  I’m talking about happiness for a while longer.

Here are four suggestions on living a happier life:

1. Think of the small things that make you happy and write them down.  This could be a sunny day, the smell of freshly cut grass, or hearing your favorite song on the radio.
2. Keep everything in perspective.  Put things in their proper place.  If something makes you unhappy, consider the scenario in the big scheme of things.  Will it really matter when you are 80 years old?
3. Look at the root cause of what makes you happy in your life.  Remember what gives you joy.
4. Put yourself second and serve others, which is contradictory to what the world says.  Happiness in serving another person first, rather than ourselves, is a humbling experience that shows others that they matter more than us.  Have you heard of the saying, “Giving the shirt off of your back”? 

Happiness is a great feeling.  The wonderful thing about being happy is that it can be found in small packages.  Why not take time to look for the small stuff that makes you happy today?

There’s a big sports buzz again in Indianapolis, and it’s not about our Indianapolis Colts.  It’s about our hometown university, Butler, playing in the NCAA Final Four tournament, which is also being held here in Indianapolis this upcoming weekend.   Who would have thought that a university of 4200 students would have a team that defeated top seeded teams and are now playing in the Final Four versus a university of 47,100?  Does it seem unfair that a team from smaller school would be playing against one over ten times its size?

Butler has been compared to the Milan High School basketball team in the movie, “Hoosiers.”   The real-life team Milan High, won the Indiana boys basketball title back in 1954, when there was just one classification of basketball.  Milan took on the big boys and won.  Butler, a small university, is also taking on the big boys in the NCAA tournament: Syracuse, Kansas State, and now Michigan State.  But just like David versus Goliath, the Butler boys have “smooth stones” in their pocket to knock out the big competition in players Gordon Hayward, Matt Howard, and Shelvin Mack.  They haven’t listened to critics and sports writers.  The boys have gone out and executed a good game of basketball, both offensively and defensively.

Have you ever been faced with a big decision or challenge in your life?  How do you react?  Do you “play” with fortitude, perseverance, and determination to do the best you can, or do you approach it with an attitude of “there’s no way that I can win against this HUGE adversary?”  When you apply fortitude, perseverance, and determination, nothing can stop you from succeeding.  The Butler boys haven’t let the Goliath colleges intimidate them.  Instead, they are taking one step, or game, at a time.  And, they have succeeded.

I’d encourage you to look at the “Goliaths” in your life.  When an issue seems too big, here are some thoughts:

1.  Seek counsel from others on how to develop your game plan. They can help “coach” you to success.
2. Take one step at a time with your game plan and include fortitude, perseverance, and determination.  You may be surprised at the outcome. 
3. Evaluate and make adjustments to the plan as you go, if needed.  If the opposition changes “players”, be prepared to make “substitutions”, too.

The Butler Bulldogs basketball team hasn’t let the big boys stop them.  You can overcome big challenges, too.