3 Ways to Know if You Are Falling in Love with a Loser – Part 1
How many of us say or hear someone say, “I’m in loooooove” or “I’m in loooooove with ___?” This phrase is often used by my eight year-old daughter to describe the feeling she has for her new bedspread, school clothes, new favorite food, and so on. Last year, she even had her first boyfriend with whom she was “in love”. Now, we all know this is puppy love or just a stronger feeling than “like”, but to her, it was real. This begs the question, do we know how to fall in love? Do we confuse love with lust or desire?
We just recently bought a used car. I caught myself saying that I looooooved my new car. That’s a pretty strong, emotionally attached statement, isn’t it? Why do I feel this way? Ok, maybe I don’t loooooove it, but I really like it. It satisfies my wants and desires – reliable, great color, rides smoothly, plenty of room, well-taken care of, and more. Isn’t that how we look at most everything in our lives? Do fall in loooooove with stuff? Yes stuff. And even people. Stuff and people that satisfy our needs and desires. For some folks, they only fall in loooooove things that satisfy the moment.
A good piece of advice that my pastor in church said, and I agree with, is not to fall in love with stuff you will never see in heaven. Great thought, but sometimes hard to do. People fall in loooooove with other people, objects, pets, and ideas. So, how do you know if you are in love with a loser? How can you try not to set yourself up for a let-down? Let’s look at three ways.
You know you are in love with a loser when:
1. You run after sensual gratification. One passion may feel irresistible until another comes along. Let’s go back to the car example. You see the latest and hottest car you have every seen in a TV commercial. Immediately, you think, I’ve got to have that, for we Americans love our cars! So, you take out a loan (or pay cash) and go buy it. The next week, another car comes out that has more features than yours AND it is THE CAR that everyone is now talking about. The passion that you had for your newly purchased car is gone, and you’ve moved onto something bigger and better. You have to find a way to get the other latest and greatest car, because you would look so cool behind the wheel. The cycle goes on and on whenever the latest and greatest car is introduced. You have to have it. Can’t wait. Got to get it now.
This is a vicious cycle where you are running after sensual gratification. What you THINK satisfies you, really doesn’t. Why? Because you are easily distracted when something else touches your desires, so you drop what you thought you looooooved and go after the new thing. This happens in marriage a lot, too. Take a look at Hollywood and who is marrying whom and getting divorced. It not only happens in Hollywood, but also in our own backyard. Resist the temptation to run after sensual gratification. Don’t trade the ultimate end result for the immediate pleasure.
We just recently bought a used car. I caught myself saying that I looooooved my new car. That’s a pretty strong, emotionally attached statement, isn’t it? Why do I feel this way? Ok, maybe I don’t loooooove it, but I really like it. It satisfies my wants and desires – reliable, great color, rides smoothly, plenty of room, well-taken care of, and more. Isn’t that how we look at most everything in our lives? Do fall in loooooove with stuff? Yes stuff. And even people. Stuff and people that satisfy our needs and desires. For some folks, they only fall in loooooove things that satisfy the moment.
A good piece of advice that my pastor in church said, and I agree with, is not to fall in love with stuff you will never see in heaven. Great thought, but sometimes hard to do. People fall in loooooove with other people, objects, pets, and ideas. So, how do you know if you are in love with a loser? How can you try not to set yourself up for a let-down? Let’s look at three ways.
You know you are in love with a loser when:
1. You run after sensual gratification. One passion may feel irresistible until another comes along. Let’s go back to the car example. You see the latest and hottest car you have every seen in a TV commercial. Immediately, you think, I’ve got to have that, for we Americans love our cars! So, you take out a loan (or pay cash) and go buy it. The next week, another car comes out that has more features than yours AND it is THE CAR that everyone is now talking about. The passion that you had for your newly purchased car is gone, and you’ve moved onto something bigger and better. You have to find a way to get the other latest and greatest car, because you would look so cool behind the wheel. The cycle goes on and on whenever the latest and greatest car is introduced. You have to have it. Can’t wait. Got to get it now.
This is a vicious cycle where you are running after sensual gratification. What you THINK satisfies you, really doesn’t. Why? Because you are easily distracted when something else touches your desires, so you drop what you thought you looooooved and go after the new thing. This happens in marriage a lot, too. Take a look at Hollywood and who is marrying whom and getting divorced. It not only happens in Hollywood, but also in our own backyard. Resist the temptation to run after sensual gratification. Don’t trade the ultimate end result for the immediate pleasure.
Posted by Darcy Keith at 7/29/2011 8:33 PM 
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Categories: motivation, inspiration, Education
Tags: Darcy Keith 3 Ways to Know if You Are Falling in Love with a Loser Love sensual gratification immediate pleasure
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